Small groups are essential to real discipleship. It is through the context of relationship that we can truly have an impact in the lives of others. In student ministry having an effective small group ministry will allow your ministry to grow while remaining small. A persons ability to really know and disciple students is limited to really just a few students. Small group are essential. I’ve posted a few other articles about how to improve small groups. These articles are not groundbreaking. They are just some practical ways to immediately make improvement in your small group setting. They can be found here: “5 Things Small Group Leaders Should Say to Parents” and “5 Ways to Enrich Your Small Group Time.” Below is another such post. I can admit I have made a few of these “Don’ts.” Check them out yourself so you don’t repeats others mistakes.
The 10 Don’ts Of Leading A Small Group
Being an effective small group leader means doing a lot of things well.
It also means NOT doing a lot of things.
This is a list of what I believe to be some of the most common “don’ts” of being a small group leader. (I’d love to see what you would add.)
1. Don’t play favorites.
This is tough. I think sometimes we do it subconsciously. We will be naturally drawn to some students based on personalities, both ours and theirs. But, we have to be aware of this tendency and work to give each student his or her fair amount of attention.
2. Don’t join with other students in making fun of a student.
Even if it’s good-natured. It’s easy to fall in to this, especially with guys. It starts out with a few guys messing with each other. Seemingly harmless. But the moment your voice is added to the chorus, it changes. You’re an adult. And your words have a lot more weight. Stay away from making fun of a student, even if it’s a joke.
3. Don’t let details fall through the cracks.
This one owns me. I struggle more with this than anything on this list. Just this week I put a mother in an not so great position with her son because I had not communicated as clearly as I should have. Details will kill you. Do not let them slip through the cracks.